I was going to wait till I got better to post but I don't like to wait too long between posts. Gamer food going to wait even longer. (Satine... You're such an asshole) (yea, I know)... I'm just too excited = I finally got a good proof of my 1st printed book and am now taking pre orders for it. I should get a set of books on April 13th and will be sending out the pre orders around that time. Order your copy HERE.
So... I decided to loose about 20 lbs and get healthy again so I ran with my dog outside for an hour a few days ago and then a couple days after that went hiking in Runyan Canyon in the Hollywood hills. Yea... STUPID idea. I forgot how sensitive I am to LA Smog. It chemical burned my throat (same thing happened to me when I cleaned my friends bathroom with without wearing a mask) and now i'm totally 100% SICK. BLEH. So, be careful in LA. SMOG CHEMICAL BURNS FUCKING SUCK.
On a more fun note I ran into a friend of mine at the Long Beach Comic con (a small con about a room big) and he reminded me of this article he wrote about picking up girls with a D20.
AAAaaaand here's the article:
The D20 Story
Too many men tell me, “I just don’t believe girls will think any of my passions are interesting.” But I prove differently.
My pal Alex and I made plans to attend one of his fraternity socials. Aeneas doubted the power of the D20 to attract women, but this party was my opportunity to show my good friend just how wrong he was.
First of all, for you who missed the fun and creativity of Dungeons & Dragons, a D20 is a twenty-sided die used to direct the action as you save the kingdom, slaughter the orcs, and resist having your brain sucked out by Illithids.
I asked Alex if he thought women are attracted to guys that play D&D.
”No, of course not,” he replied.
”Well, tonight they will be!” I proclaimed.
When we arrived at the fraternity house, the party hadn’t started yet. Alex introduced me to a few fraternity members hanging around and I started disarming them before the women arrived.
Most guys are just looking for an ego boost and some respect from the outsider, give them that and most of the time you’ll be accepted.
When the girls arrived, I greeted the first few who walked in the door. I needed to introduce myself and ensure they had a strong first impression of me, but more importantly I had listened to the way the brothers treated each of the girls, so that I had some understanding of these people’s personalities and relationships.
Standing against the wall were three cute girls. I strutted past my friend and said, “This D20 is about to become so fucking cool.”
I assumed at least one of them was psychology or communications student, which was important since these majors provided a perfect way to introduce my D20.
I approached, broke the ice, and gave them some shit about the way they were dressed just to get a flirty vibe going. Shortly after, I transitioned into psychology, eliciting why it was so important to them, creating commonalities, and linking communications with psychology. I ran them through an old psychology visualization called “The Cube.” As usual, The Cube amazed them all.
”If you’re psych students, then guys have seen one of these before, right?” I asked them as I pulled out the D20 and held it aloft as if it were a precious stone. None of them knew what it was.
”It’s a die for playing an old psychology game. You’re all psych student and don’t know what it is?!? I can’t even talk to you anymore.” I turned by body away from them, to make it appear as though I was leaving.
One of the girls, a cute blonde, grabbed my arm and begged to know the name of the game.
”Dungeons & Dragons!” I answered. “I can’t believe you guys have never played it before. It’s a great psychoanalysis tool.”
I explained that D&D is, in fact, a great tool for understanding psychology and building a healthy imagination. I got them to agree with me at every point in the conversation by weaving pieces of their psych-student-reality in with mine.
”Can I see it?” A tall brunette asked.
”No. I’ll only let you hold it if you stand around, worshipping the die, for a photo. I mean, this talisman changes lives after all! You have to show it the proper respect.”
The girls laughed and moved around me to get into the photo.
The flash went off, and I smiled, enjoying the situation.
”Wow, you girls are nerds!” I laughed. “You just took a photo worshiping a Dungeons & Dragons die! I thought sorority girls were supposed to define cool. I guess that makes D&D cool or else you girls are all nerds!” The girls laughed.
”Ha-ha I guess it is cool then,” the girl with the devilish grin said as she touched my arm.
Once again I decided to show them disinterest by telling them I had to find my friends. “I’ll catch you cool nerds later. Maybe we can get some graph paper and map out our dungeon adventure!”
Alex quickly cornered me. ”Those girls were fawning over a D20. What the fuck is going on?”
“It’s actually very simple,” I explained. “Anything can become cool if you believe it and have a frame strong enough to convince others. I treated the die like an exotic diamond, I tied it into things that interest them, and my personality was fun and persuasive enough to convince them it was cool.”
Cool is the result of what high social value people show the world.
I had the highest value in the D20 story because I made myself appear more knowledgeable on communications and psychology, the subjects the girls studied in college. For about a year, I worked in a genetics and behavioral psychology lab at Yale University.
I leveraged that experience to fuel my value. Even though I don’t know much about the communications program, I could deduce how it was important to the girls and connect it to psychology, a realm where I am much more comfortable.
So the first key is to establish yourself as a high value person and then connect their concept of high value to your topic.
I made myself appear more knowledgeable by showing the girls how communications and psychology were very similar and how one could not exist without the other. I offered them a different perspective that drew them closer together as a group and allowed me to become the new authority for that part of their reality. I sealed the deal with a demonstration “The Cube” because showing is always more powerful than telling.
So the second key is to be a playful, sexual, cool guy. Enjoy yourself and don’t apologize for your interests.
I then showed them the D20 and acted as if they should know what it was. When they didn’t, I made fun of them until they wanted to know, essentially executing a push-pull. I then made them jump through a hoop by getting the group photo with the D20. Then I gave them a double blind: I mentioned that either the D20 was cool or they were nerds. So unless they wanted to admit that they were, in fact, nerds (which would have been fine as well) there was no other option than to accept the D20 as cool.
Another key is to keep your mind open and adaptable.
Cool is a relative term. What’s cool to one group may not be cool to the next. Listen for the values each group presents when you’re building rapport, notice how they dress, listen to how they speak, and observe what their body language communicates. Do this and you’ll have all the information you need to fit in with any group, let alone get the girl.
-George "Evolve" Rockwell